Sometimes getting uncomfortable requires finding the strength within yourself you didn’t know you had.
Being comfortable has always been the ultimate goal for me. The mentality was to pursue a life in the safe lane to minimize failures, rejection, and disappointment. I was the quiet girl in high school that never spoke up for fear of sounding silly or being rejected. I was the one that never asked for what I really wanted because I was afraid of hearing the answer, “no”. I resisted anything that went against the grain and passed up countless opportunities that required taking any risks. In my head it, putting myself in uncomfortable positions wasn’t worth the trouble and I was better off blending in and going with flow.
The problem with that mentality was that I was living the status quo and not realizing my true potential. Day after day, it was a constant battle between my heart and mind. The desires were always there to cast my fears aside and go after what I wanted, but my inner critic would be there all the time convincing me to remain bottled up. Mentally, it wasn’t a good place to be and I could feel my dreams dying inside the more I resisted them.
To now be living a life where the faith I have in myself is always being tested and showing determination and fearlessness to follow my dreams is beyond anything I could’ve imagined for myself. Evolving outside of my comfort zone has taken me places and has transformed me into someone that I am proud of. I am still a work in progress and I still have far to go but I know that I am headed in the right direction. The thing is, we are all afraid of failure, rejections, and disappointments; those things suck! But what I realized is that putting ourselves in positions of vulnerability opens us up to something much more than just a bruised ego. The rewards are triumph, strength, and joy for believing in yourself enough to take a chance. It’s like what my friend and photographer Marie Lyssa once said, going after what you want is like sticking your face out for everyone to see, you might get a few slaps but eventually someone will see your value and say yes.
I’ll leave you with a mantra that I say to myself whenever I find my fear is taking over; “Get Uncomfortable, Remain Faithful”. To me, that means you must challenge your fears and have faith in your heart that everything will fall into place.
Me strolling the streets of Paris, France 2011. Photo taken by Jennifer Romero.