Self-help. That word always bothered me. My first encounter with the word was in a bookstore when I was in my early twenties. I wasn’t really sure what type of book I was looking for at the time but I was somehow drawn to the self-help section. I walked down the long aisle and let my fingertips run across the spine of each book packed tightly against one another. I glanced at each alluring title of tips and tricks, and quick fixes complete with pictures on the cover of people who seemed to be everything I was not. My my, what a good way to make someone feel like they were lacking something.
What are we really looking for when we search for something we believe can ‘fix’ us? Who do we really want to be? What do we really want to have or feel? Are we looking for a quick fix to relieve our pain or is it something deeper than that?
I’ll admit it. I’ve invested in a lot of self-help books over the years and still do to some extent. In fact, anytime I learn about a new book that made Oprah’s book club or demonstrates even a hint of self-improvement I’m all over it. My indulgence in exploring new concepts towards personal growth has become quite expansive in the past few years.
And my quest for self-improvement and growth doesn’t stop at just books. Oh, no no no my friends. Just the other day, I decided to try Reiki. You may have heard of this practice that originated from a philosophy of spiritual healing. A good friend of mine, who is also a Reiki master performed it on me and it was quite an interesting experience. Actually it was pretty profound and I do see myself doing it again in the near future.
Which leads to me to what prompted me to write this post today. Since first delving into the world of ‘self-help’ many years ago, I wondered if my never-ending search to “fix” myself had become detrimental or somewhat harmful to my personal growth. I began to question my motives for every self-improvement book I’ve read, every inspirational person I’ve listened to, and even the yoga and meditation practice I do. Was I trying to fix something in me I thought was broken?
When I was younger and my life consisted of doing what was expected of me and following the crowd, self-help books that claimed to make me a better me was just what I wanted at the time. Now that I’m older, and superficial band-aid remedies no longer sustain me, I seek a new truth. A truth that can only be found in ways that connect with your core. I realize now that there is nothing wrong with continuously wanting to discover ways to improve upon who you already are. Notice I said, “improve upon who you already are” because we are all equipped with potential for greatness. I truly believe this. Practices of self-improvement just takes what is already there and enhances it. You can call it evolving; self-evolvement.
Continuously practicing and exploring new ways towards self-evolvement is never-ending. It’s the only way you will keep growing and it will bring you closer to finding and living your truth. While you’re on this journey of self-exploration and evolvement, be open to insight that offers new and thought-provoking perspectives. Be cautious of the allure of quick fixes, guarantees, and fast tracks to a better you. Only you can make a guarantee to yourself to become who you want to be and the time it will take to get there, totally depends on you. Listen and feel for experiences that resonate deeply within you and connect with your core. This is the type of self-discovery that will enhance your true self and allow you to evolve into the essence of who you truly are.
With Love & Light,