A met a good friend of mine for dinner the other night and she casually mentioned to me that she accepted a new job offer and would be starting on Monday. I jumped and cheered for her as I know the last few months of job hunting and interviewing was starting to weigh on her. Only she wasn’t excited about her new job and questioned whether she made the right decision. She wondered if the job aligned with her career goals and her life’s path. She wondered if the role matched her qualifications including the new Masters degree she just earned. She started having doubts whether she made the right decision. My friend was having buyer’s remorse.
Saying yes to any major life decision especially when it comes to your career can be daunting. The unknown can be scary as we don’t know what it would lead to and we feel like we’re losing our sense of control over the situation. Thoughts like this can make us feel like we’ve made a bad decision and regret starts to creeps in. We feel maybe we should’ve kept interviewing, maybe we shouldn’t have accepted the job offer, maybe we should’ve negotiated a higher salary, and maybe we shouldn’t have listened to other people.
While you may have these thoughts coming up about your new job, it is important to remember, your attitude determines everything. If you show up to your new job with regrets, even if you hide it really well, it’s still likely to effect how well you do.
There is always something bigger going on behind the scenes of what you see. It is all a part of the greater universal plan that is unfolding all around you.
Although, on the surface the job may not feel like the right fit for you, what if you knew that in a few months, you would meet a client or customer that said a kind word about you which led to a promotion?
What if you knew that your new job challenged you to take on different responsibilities that you naturally excelled at and unexpectedly connected you deeper to your passion?
What if what you couldn’t see about this new job, was that down the road it would lead you to do the best work of your life that would then open up opportunities for greater career fulfillment?
All of these things may not be possible if you start day 1 with the thought that, this isn’t going to work out. The experience will be what you make of it. There are never any wrong decisions, just the one’s we choose to learn from. The new job is part of your experience, otherwise it wouldn’t be happening. Trust the process and the path that is being laid out for you because in some way or another, you attracted the moment to you. Honor your decisions and commit to the path openly and with a willingness to see the bigger picture.
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