Today, we’re talking about ways to always get what you want. While it’s actually quite simple to have what we want, the method to getting it isn’t always. Here’s what I know to be true about what it takes to get what we want.
Make strong, declarative statements of intention. Use language that is positive and forward focused. For example, I am running three 5ks this year. I am increasing my income by 40%. To get published on my favorite industry publication.
Write it down. Be specific. The Universe does not like vague words. If it’s a quantity, use numbers. If it’s a time frame, use dates. You get the picture. Be specific!
Create a vision board. If Oprah uses vision boards, so can you. Just do it.
Be willing to sacrifice. Most times what we want requires us to get uncomfortable in order to get it. Be willing to sacrifice comfort.
Be willing to fail. Mistakes and failures are part of the picture -- we have to get over this stigma of failing. Besides, in the grand scheme of things, failure is not the worse thing that can happen to you.
Be willing to wait. Sometimes for a long time. Talking to all you impatient people out there! Getting what you want is not always on your time clock. This is where being committed factors in.
Stop worrying about the How. The reason why you don’t have what you want, is you’re busy figuring out the how. It's the way our minds rationalize what is possible verses what is not. Our job does not always entail figuring out 'the how'. We have to leave room for a little uncertainty. Sometimes the how is a mystery. The sooner you embrace that, the better off you'll be.
Do the work even when you don’t feel like it. You’re never going to feel like going to the gym even though you want to get more healthy. You’re never going to feel like waking up earlier to get work done. Do it anyway! Stop letting your feelings dictate what you do and don’t do.
Stop worrying about what other people think. We’d be so much happier and free’er if we just learned to do this.
Stop overthinking it. Analyzing and rationalizing can be just another way we self sabotage. If we're thinking about doing something, we're not actually doing the thing. It's safer and you're not risking much when you're in your head. Learn to bring some of that focus and attention down from your brain and into your heart, into your body, and into the doing.
Take one of the items from this list. Just one! And practice it this week. Let me know how it goes!