I came across this powerful little word just recently while scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed. A photographer who recently photographed a wedding used the word ‘honor’ in her photo caption. If I recall, her words were, “it was such an honor to capture their special day”. I locked in on this word, honor, because something about the way she used it caught my attention. Her use of the word ‘honor’ caused me to imagine how it must have felt for her to do the work she did for her clients in capturing their wedding day. I’ve had my play in the photography world for a time so I do know what a tremendous honor it is to be chosen by your clients and valued for your talents. However, I will venture to say, that the honor this photographer felt in doing this work for her wedding clients didn’t just come from being chosen for her talentedly-made photographs.Read More
The last few weeks, I've shared part I and II of my 10 tips for aligning your career with purpose. Many of you responded with your comments especially for tips #3 and #6. Today, I'm thrilled to share with you the final four tips. They are:
7. Assume Success
Begin with the end goal in mind and decide that what you want is possible to achieve. Whether it is a new job, higher pay, or successful relationships; it all begins with a shift in attitude and the mentality of success. When you believe that you will be successful, you begin to take actions that support that belief. Switch every doubtful thought you have for more empowering supportive one’s and see what differences you notice.
8. Accept Failure
Failure is a breakthrough in disguise. Learn to embrace it and see past any feelings of defeat and embarrassment. For every failure you experience is an opportunity to see what worked and what didn’t work. Be willing to learn with failure as your teacher.
9. Be Gentle On Yourself
We can be our own worst critic especially when making a major life move like changing careers or starting a new business. The stress makes us more prone to negative self-talk, taking on too much, inadequate rest, and skipping meals. Remember, you are no good to anyone when you’re tired or burnt out. It is not selfish to take care of your needs before others. Learn to make self-care a top priority and practice doing things that help replenish your energy and elevate your mood.
10. Start From Where You Are
You have everything you need in this current moment to take you to the next level in your career. Never lose sight of this. Be grounded and put one step in front of the other, one moment at a time. Each moment is a clean slate to a fresh start.
I hope that you will join me in integrating these tips in your work and personal wellbeing. Like exercise, we must keep practicing and repeating to see results. Print out all 10 tips and put them in a place where you'll see them everyday (Click here to download).
Practice them well and keep me posted on how it goes….firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Welcome to part 2 of my 10 tips for aligning your career with your personal purpose (check out part 1 if you missed it). A lot of you have been responding that #3, Get Rid of The Excuses resonates with you the most! It's amazing when we can take a step back and see how our excuses get in the way.
Let's keep this going! Check out today's tips for aligning your career with purpose.
4. Let Go of Blocks & Barriers
Blocks are internal obstacles that hold us back in the form of thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. They stand in the way of the job we want, the business we dream about, or making the money we want in our career. Blocks are self-created which means that we can break through them. We break through by learning to let go of the blocks that hold us back whether they are bad managers, toxic friends, or self-sabotaging thoughts.
5. Look Fear in the Eye
Fears diminish our confidence and esteem. It is the internal voice that tells you not to even try. Fear can be controlling and will always be apart of the journey.
Awareness is key. By learning to increase your awareness of how your fears control you, you can confront it and challenge them. You begin to weaken the power fear has over you and take your goals to the next level.
6. Stay the Course
What sets successful people who achieve their goals apart from those who don’t are those who persevere and have a healthy level of optimism. While you won’t always get the job offer. You won’t always score the client. Your product won’t always sell. It is all in preparation that leads you to the door that will open up for you. The trick is to fall down 7 times and get up 8.
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Before the start of the new year I spoke at a women's professional organization and met a group of 22 passionate dedicated women who are taking control of their careers and making their goals a reality this year. I spoke about my 10 tips for the career conscious professional and thought I'd share it with you here to support you in your career journey. So over the course of the next 3 posts, you'll receive my tips for aligning your career with your personal purpose. Here we go!
1. Say Yes to Yourself
When you say yes to pursue your dream career, it is part of the process to go through hardships. It requires courage, discipline, fortitude, sleepless nights, rejections, and falling flat on your face. But the fulfillment and personal satisfaction you gain in the process is priceless. Saying yes is a commitment to align with your career purpose. You are taking steps to improve and be better than when you first started.
2. Get Clear
Get clear on what you want to achieve in your career and why that is important to you. This is a highly personalized process and will ground you in your values, purpose, and vision. Without clarity, we float aimlessly and spend our energies in different directions that cause us to lose focus. When getting clear, be imaginative, creative, detailed, and willing to exceed your own expectations of what you believe is possible.
3. Get Rid of The Excuses
Excuses are one of the most destructive obstacles we use to get in our own way. Excuses are products of the mind; it is creativity in its most destructive form. Excuses are the stories we tell ourselves as to why something is not possible. Excuses can disguise themselves as perfectly legitimate when in actuality if we truly wanted something we would find a way to get it. Excuses release us from taking responsibility. Fears underlie our excuses and sometimes, you learn more about yourself by the excuses you give. Ask yourself, “What excuse am I telling myself right now?”
I hope you practice these well. Til next time when I share part 2 of my three-week career tip series!
Keep me posted on how it goes….firstname.lastname@example.org.
Picture for a moment, you’re driving along on a highway. You’re by yourself in your car and you are the only one on the road. It is a bright and sunny day. There isn’t a cloud in the sky. It’s just you and a million miles of an endless stretch of road. The road you’re on is leading you to absolute passion and fulfillment in your career. You’re on the right path, all you have to do is stay the course.
While driving you glance up in your rearview and see a swarm of cars aggressively gaining on you as you realize you now have company along your journey.
The road gets crowded and it starts to get to you as you realize you now have competition in achieving your dream career. You start to wonder, if everyone wants to get to the same place, how is it possible for you to get where you want to go. You think to yourself, this road is not big enough for all of us, I should pull off. This is an example of blind spot #1: Limiting Beliefs.
As you’re driving along, a red Mercedes pulls along the driver side. You glance over at the driver and notice the she looks over at your car, seems unimpressed, and quickly speeds up ahead of you. You immediately begin to think she is a jerk and that maybe your car is not nice enough. You have just experienced blind spot #2: Interpretations.
After miles and miles of smooth driving you notice the same convertible from a few miles back that cut you off. You think to yourself, that’s the jerk that cut me off. You begin to recall how frightful it was for you to veer out of your lane to avoid hitting the convertible. So rather than going your normal pace, you slow down to avoid catching up to the convertible. You believe that nothings changed and he will cut you off again so you stay behind. Welcome to blind spot #3: Assumptions.
Finally, you’re nearing towards your destination and you can see the long journey to having higher career fulfillment is almost over. After driving for so long you notice the road is nearly empty, just like when you started out on your journey. But behind you notice a black Hummer who’s presence seems to take up the entire road. The Hummer is big and intimidating with tinted windows so that you can’t even see the person driving it. The Hummer drives uncomfortably close to you and you find yourself switching lanes, slowing down, and avoiding eye contact as you try to ignore his presence. Only you can’t. His presence makes you feel small, insignificant, not good enough. You’ve driven all this way but you question whether or not you’re ready to arrive at your destination. Surely, the other cars, especially the Hummer are better suited to reach their goal and have a rewarding career. The feeling makes you want to stop in your journey and turn around. You have entered the deepest and most troubling blind spot of all, #4: Inner Critic.
These are the 4 Blind Spots that stop you from attaining greater success and happiness in your career and within your life. I call them blind spots because we are not always aware of them and they work against us from creating greater fulfillment in your career and within your life. As with all things worth going for, the path towards your calling is a journey and process that is ripe with challenges that were designed for you to overcome. Starting this week, make an effort to catch yourself and see your own ‘blind spots’ and how they hold you back. Creating awareness around your blind spots will help lead you to your desired destination.
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One of the greatest things that happens when you connect with your calling and do personally fulfilling work, is being able to share it with others. Think about it. What is the first thing we do when we have a great idea, receive good news, or create something new? We tell somebody and we share it with the world.
This goes for whether you have a gift or an idea worthy of sharing or even when you experience a bad day. Something happens when you share with others. You open yourself up, you form a connection, and you shift from ‘me’ to ‘we’. There is tremendous power in sharing what we know and what we can do that shapes the world in a transformative way. You, as a result also experience deep transformation as you realize the power you have to impact positive change through who you are and the work you do.
We are no good to anybody or to ourselves when we hold it in and hold ourselves back. Suppose Thomas Edison never told the world about the light bulb and kept it to himself. What if Malala Yousafzai, the teenage girl shot by the Taliban, kept her experience to herself and never decided to speak out about her campaign for girls education in Pakistan? Or how about the guy pictured below who travels around the world with his piano simply to share his message to do something remarkable with your life.
Think about something in your life that you love to share. Vegan Baking recipes, your knowledge of food nutrition, business consulting for eco-friendly companies. How can you bring your gifts to more people? How can you begin sharing your work with others that helps them improve their lives? This marks the beginning of connecting with your calling and doing fulfilling work that can shape your career in a meaningful way. Spend some time this week reflecting on what you’d like to share more of in the world.
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