When You Don't Feel Qualified

"God is going to send you places you don't feel qualified to go. God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the CALLED!"

When I posted this quote on my Instagram a few days ago, it got double the likes of my normal posts. I knew this one struck a cord with a lot of folks. It was one of those posts that when I read the words, I stopped what I was doing and gave it my full attention. He qualifies the called.

I find that so many of us, especially women but some men too, often don’t feel qualified to step into the next chapter of their career story. If it’s a book we want to write, we disqualify ourselves by saying, I’m not a writer. If it’s a new role we want to take on at work, we disqualify ourselves because we don’t have enough experience. If we want to start a business but don’t consider ourselves savvy enough. If we want to change directions completely and go into a career path that is completely foreign to us, we disqualify ourselves because we don't have a Master's in that field. When we feel called into something we've never done before, we instantly feel unqualified for the job. We begin measuring ourselves by what we don't have rather than focusing on the strengths we already possess.


I believe we all have intrinsic qualities that sometimes lie dormant untilthe moment we need to call on them. Like the new mother whose never parented before, she’s filled with all sorts of nerves and anxiety over being responsible for another human life. But the moment she steps into it, she realizes motherhood is as innate to her as being good at finance or bringing friends together.


We almost always feel uncertain about venturing into unknown territory. The doubts are just a natural part of being human. We crave growth but a big part of the growth process is not always feeling ready for the thing you want to grow into. We must give ourselves permission to venture into unknown territory and the room to grow within spaces that at first seem too big. You won’t know what greatness you’re truly capable of until you allow yourself to be great. While you may not believe you have what it takes for that next big step, consider that there is an untapped part of you that was born for it.

Now it’s your turn. What are you feeling the call to do? What if stepping into it, made you more qualified?


Project She Went for Her Dreams has openings for 5 new clients. If you’re feeling the call to greatness, get started with filling out our application.
 
Cheers to your dreams,
 
Ariane

 

10 Tips for the Career Conscious Professional (Part III)

The last few weeks, I've shared part I and II of my 10 tips for aligning your career with purpose. Many of you responded with your comments especially for tips #3 and #6. Today, I'm thrilled to share with you the final four tips. They are:

7.  Assume Success
Begin with the end goal in mind and decide that what you want is possible to achieve.  Whether it is a new job, higher pay, or successful relationships; it all begins with a shift in attitude and the mentality of success. When you believe that you will be successful, you begin to take actions that support that belief. Switch every doubtful thought you have for more empowering supportive one’s and see what differences you notice.

8.  Accept Failure
Failure is a breakthrough in disguise. Learn to embrace it and see past any feelings of defeat and embarrassment. For every failure you experience is an opportunity to see what worked and what didn’t work. Be willing to learn with failure as your teacher.

9.  Be Gentle On Yourself
We can be our own worst critic especially when making a major life move like changing careers or starting a new business. The stress makes us more prone to negative self-talk, taking on too much, inadequate rest, and skipping meals. Remember, you are no good to anyone when you’re tired or burnt out. It is not selfish to take care of your needs before others. Learn to make self-care a top priority and practice doing things that help replenish your energy and elevate your mood.

10.  Start From Where You Are
You have everything you need in this current moment to take you to the next level in your career. Never lose sight of this. Be grounded and put one step in front of the other, one moment at a time. Each moment is a clean slate to a fresh start.

I hope that you will join me in integrating these tips in your work and personal wellbeing. Like exercise, we must keep practicing and repeating to see results. Print out all 10 tips and put them in a place where you'll see them everyday (Click here to download).

Practice them well and keep me posted on how it goes….ariane@arianehunter.com.

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10 Tips for the Career Conscious Professional (Part II)

Welcome to part 2 of my 10 tips for aligning your career with your personal purpose (check out part 1 if you missed it). A lot of you have been responding that #3, Get Rid of The Excuses resonates with you the most! It's amazing when we can take a step back and see how our excuses get in the way.

Let's keep this going! Check out today's tips for aligning your career with purpose.


4.  Let Go of Blocks & Barriers
Blocks are internal obstacles that hold us back in the form of thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. They stand in the way of the job we want, the business we dream about, or making the money we want in our career. Blocks are self-created which means that we can break through them.  We break through by learning to let go of the blocks that hold us back whether they are bad managers, toxic friends, or self-sabotaging thoughts.
 
5.  Look Fear in the Eye
Fears diminish our confidence and esteem. It is the internal voice that tells you not to even try.  Fear can be controlling and will always be apart of the journey.  

Awareness is key. By learning to increase your awareness of how your fears control you, you can confront it and challenge them. You begin to weaken the power fear has over you and take your goals to the next level.
 
6.  Stay the Course
What sets successful people who achieve their goals apart from those who don’t are those who persevere and have a healthy level of optimism. While you won’t always get the job offer. You won’t always score the client. Your product won’t always sell. It is all in preparation that leads you to the door that will open up for you. The trick is to fall down 7 times and get up 8.

Keep me posted on how it goes….ariane@arianehunter.com.

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10 Tips for the Career Conscious Professional (Part I)

Before the start of the new year I spoke at a women's professional organization and met a group of 22 passionate dedicated women who are taking control of their careers and making their goals a reality this year. I spoke about my 10 tips for the career conscious professional and thought I'd share it with you here to support you in your career journey. So over the course of the next 3 posts, you'll receive my tips for aligning your career with your personal purpose. Here we go!

1.  Say Yes to Yourself
When you say yes to pursue your dream career, it is part of the process to go through hardships. It requires courage, discipline, fortitude, sleepless nights, rejections, and falling flat on your face.  But the fulfillment and personal satisfaction you gain in the process is priceless. Saying yes is a commitment to align with your career purpose. You are taking steps to improve and be better than when you first started.

2.  Get Clear
Get clear on what you want to achieve in your career and why that is important to you. This is a highly personalized process and will ground you in your values, purpose, and vision. Without clarity, we float aimlessly and spend our energies in different directions that cause us to lose focus. When getting clear, be imaginative, creative, detailed, and willing to exceed your own expectations of what you believe is possible.

3.  Get Rid of The Excuses
Excuses are one of the most destructive obstacles we use to get in our own way. Excuses are products of the mind; it is creativity in its most destructive form. Excuses are the stories we tell ourselves as to why something is not possible. Excuses can disguise themselves as perfectly legitimate when in actuality if we truly wanted something we would find a way to get it. Excuses release us from taking responsibility. Fears underlie our excuses and sometimes, you learn more about yourself by the excuses you give. Ask yourself, “What excuse am I telling myself right now?”

I hope you practice these well. Til next time when I share part 2 of my three-week career tip series!

Keep me posted on how it goes….ariane@arianehunter.com.

The One You Feed

From a well-known Cherokee legend:

"There are two wolves that live inside each heart, and they fight each other all our lives. One is full of turmoil and anger and jealousy and hatred because it feeds on fear. The other is full of peace and hope and compassion and joy because it lives on love."

The evening passed, and the fire burned down. "So, which one wins?" the boy whispered.

The grandfather's eyebrows rose as he replied:

"The one you feed."

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This old legend caught my attention the other day as it so adequately describes the battle between fear and fulfillment we struggle with every day. I’ve been there; we’ve all been there. When it feels like an internal fight and you don’t know who is going to win. You know that the day job you begrudgingly take yourself to each day is not how you’d like to spend the rest of your life but what is the alternative? The question mark brings on feelings of stress, anger, doubt, and even sadness. This feeds your wolf even more. And even though it feels like on most days the wolf of fear seems to be growing stronger, the tiniest bit of passion can refuel the wolf that lives on love. Maybe that day you feed that wolf with inspiration or by spending 10 minutes researching careers in environmental sustainability because you would love a job in that field. Or you might even feed that wolf by launching that kickstarter campaign to fund your new project idea.

There are many ways to feed your wolf. Which wolf are you feeding? 

Keep me posted on how it goes...ariane@arianehunter.com.

Getting Uncomfortable | Personal Reflections

This post was re-posted in part of the Weeks of Self Blog Series that started on November 16th. For more information about the other posts and contributors, go here .

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Sometimes getting uncomfortable requires finding the strength within yourself you didn’t know you had.  

Being comfortable has always been the ultimate goal for me.  The mentality was to pursue a life in the safe lane to minimize failures, rejection, and disappointment.  I was the quiet girl in high school that never spoke up for fear of sounding silly or being rejected.  I was the one that never asked for what I really wanted because I was afraid of hearing the answer, “no”.  I resisted anything that went against the grain and passed up countless opportunities that required taking any risks.  In my head it, putting myself in uncomfortable positions wasn’t worth the trouble and I was better off blending in and going with flow.

The problem with that mentality was that I was living the status quo and not realizing my true potential.  Day after day, it was a constant battle between my heart and mind.  The desires were always there to cast my fears aside and go after what I wanted, but my inner critic would be there all the time convincing me to remain bottled up.  Mentally, it wasn’t a good place to be and I could feel my dreams dying inside the more I resisted them.

To now be living a life where the faith I have in myself is always being tested and showing determination and fearlessness to follow my dreams is beyond anything I could’ve imagined for myself.  Evolving outside of my comfort zone has taken me places and has transformed me into someone that I am proud of.   I am still a work in progress and I still have far to go but I know that I am headed in the right direction.  The thing is, we are all afraid of failure, rejections, and disappointments; those things suck!  But what I realized is that putting ourselves in positions of vulnerability opens us up to something much more than just a bruised ego. The rewards are triumph, strength, and joy for believing in yourself enough to take a chance.  It’s like what my friend and photographer Marie Lyssa once said, going after what you want is like sticking your face out for everyone to see, you might get a few slaps but eventually someone will see your value and say yes.

I’ll leave you with a mantra that I say to myself whenever I find my fear is taking over; “Get Uncomfortable, Remain Faithful”.  To me, that means you must challenge your fears and have faith in your heart that everything will fall into place.

See Beauty…

Ariane

Me strolling the streets of Paris, France 2011.  Photo taken by Jennifer Romero.  

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Lost A Client, Gained A Lesson

Late last year I learned one of many valuable lessons on this crazy journey as a photographer; my self-worth.  Since starting out a few years ago, it has been a constant battle between being 100% confident in my talents and letting my doubts and fears get the best of me. Back in November 2010, I received an inquiry from a potential client for wedding photography services.  As always, whenever someone contacts me to work with them I get all sorts of giddy.  The high I get when someone who has seen my work and contacts me to work with them never gets old. The client was the groom-to-be. He had seen my portfolio and felt it suited what he was looking for in a photographer. We had exchanged initial emails and then scheduled a call to get better acquainted.  Everything went along so beautifully as I explained to him my services and got to know him a little better.  We even got to the next stage where we agreed to set up some time to meet in person.  Happy happy, joy joy!! This would be my opportunity to really get to know him and his fiancé and secure them as my clients.  But before he got off the phone he mentioned one last thing “oh yeah, my fiancé and I would like to see some of your sample albums”.  Gulp, sample albums?  Eeeck!  And everything was going so well too, why’d he have to pull the sample album card? I had done wedding albums before but I did not have any physical “samples” to show him.  I didn't have my own studio after all. I became frantic and then the doubts started to creep in on whether or not they would book with me.  So I did what any normal person would do; I panicked! I had such a good feeling about working with them and I didn’t want to make not having a sample album screw up the whole thing. I scheduled us to meet one week out.  I figured that would give me enough time to get my hands on a sample album before our meeting.  As my luck would have it, he emailed me a few days later to tell me it was a pleasure speaking with me but he decided to go with someone else.  Ouch!  I was hugely disappointed.  Not just because I lost a potential client but because I thought it was my fault for worrying too much about needing the album to prove my worth and not recognizing my own value as a photographer.  Later on, I had a conversation about it with a good photographer friend of mine who reminded me that we must always remember that clients are paying for YOU.  It doesn’t matter what gear you have, how many weddings you’ve shot, or any sample albums; your client should want you for you.  In my case, I became distracted with needing an album to “show-off” and not having confidence in the talents that I alone could bring to the table. The sample album doesn’t speak for my capabilities as a photographer, only I can do that. That experience awakened me in so many ways and has helped me to understand who I am as a person and photographer; it was a true test of the value and confidence one must put into themselves and their abilities. Getting past the fear and doubt is no easy task but it can be a test of your strength to see the value in everything you do. Being confident in myself and knowing my own worth hasn’t always come natural for me.  Even now, it is a constant journey of trusting myself, seeking support, and taking risks despite the doubts and fear. In what ways has fear prevented you from seeing your self-worth?  How has it affected you? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This post was inspired by a recent article written by Tara Sophia Mohr titled Playing Big which moved me to explore the ways in which doubts and fear play a role in my life.   I was motivated and encouraged to take on an exciting new challenge that will help me in owning my unique talents and sharing my vision with the world.  More details on that this week... ;) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- See Beauty... Ariane
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