Glass Half Full

Are we talking about how much optimism one has?

Are we talking about being realistic?

Or could we be talking pure and simply about mindset and the willingness to choose?

 

The answer: all of the above.

Glass Half Full. The age-old common expression used to indicate someone’s point of view of a situation.  If we looked a little deeper behind this seemingly simple expression, we find that it not only represents one’s perspective, but their beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions. The way you normally see your situation can dictate the outcome for you. It can also quite honestly be a reality check for how often things normally work out for you, or don’t.

It can be said that your past experiences, beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions determine how you would react to situations. Perhaps your experiences have shown you that life is tough and you have to deal with the hand you’ve been dealt. This belief creates the mindset you have today. But let’s imagine for a moment that we could choose the reaction we want to have to the scenario and thus have the option to turn our ‘glass half empty’ mentality around.

What if this glass below represents a situation you’re in right now.

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Scenario 1: You’ve spent the last month in a series of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd round interviews with an employer that you’d very much like to work for. You later find out that you didn’t receive an offer. Is your glass half empty or half full?

Scenario 2: You’re a new business owner and over the past two months you planned and prepared for a unique program that you’d like to offer to your clients. You only mange to sell 30% of your targeted goal. Is your glass half empty or half full?

There is no right or wrong answer to the scenarios above. Just an interpretation of the events that could either empower you or deplete you. Coming from an ‘half empty’ mindset generates feelings of lack and low energy; it can be draining and create stress. The ‘half full’ mindset represents growth, support, empowerment; endless possibilities is the name of the game.

It all boils down to choice and mindset. Whether you see the situation as dire and dismal or exciting and full of potential is completely up to you and will dictate the results you get.  What if having no job offer meant that the right job is opening up for you? What if no sign up’s to your business offer meant more clarity to improving your services and could yield higher sales next time?

What is the ‘glass half empty mentality’ costing you? What could change by shifting into a more empowering reality? What have you got to lose?

Keep me posted on how it goes….ariane@arianehunter.com.

 

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Stepping Stones

I love the different trajectories our careers can take throughout an entire lifetime. Usually it starts right after college when we enter the workforce. We may find ourselves starting out in an admin position of a big company before working our way up to larger roles. We may make lateral moves within a company believing that each role will give us the experience and qualifications necessary to bring us closer to our dream job. The same can be true in pursuing a career in the arts. We can easily find ourselves working as a waitress until we make our big break as an actress.  Or someone who is an aspiring photographer can find themselves working as an assistant or shooting small unpaid gigs before they can have their dream job. Sometimes on the journey of becoming who we want to be and doing the work we love, there are some necessary steps we must take in order to get to the next level. It’s all part of our grand career plan. And these stepping stones help us create the career we most desire. 

Stepping stone jobs can be vital to the evolution of your career. They provide the platform to spearhead your career and provide you with real world experience to better prepare you for the next level.

However, what happens when we become stuck in a pattern of jobs that are simply stepping stones for our career? When we spend a little bit more time than necessary before embarking on our dream career because we have convinced ourselves that we are still not ready for a larger role and more responsibility?  How do we know when to take the leap and plunge into our dream career and soak up the pleasures of the unknown?

Stepping Stones of Memory - by nwwes, DeviantArt

Thoughts of  “I’m not experienced enough. I don’t know enough in that area to be good at it. This job is just a stepping stone but what I really want to do is …”. The litany of excuses are ongoing and can often keep us trapped in dead-end careers with the belief that we’re not yet equipped to have what we really want. The danger of stepping stone jobs are that they can tend to make us feel complacent and deceive us into thinking that we are moving closer to our dreams, when in actuality we are just standing still.

Pause for a moment and reflect on the last few jobs you’ve held. What about that job supported your dream career? How has that job led you closer to where you want to be? How ready do you feel to go to the next level? 

Chances are you are more ready to leave that stepping stone job than you think.

Let your stepping stone job support you for as long as it needs to but not a minute more. The moment you feel stagnant and disengaged from your role it may be time to reevaluate and finally move onto the career you’ve been saving yourself for. Your dream job is waiting for you.

Keep me posted on how it goes ariane@arianehunter.com.

 

 

The 4 Blind Spots

Picture for a moment, you’re driving along on a highway. You’re by yourself in your car and you are the only one on the road. It is a bright and sunny day. There isn’t a cloud in the sky. It’s just you and a million miles of an endless stretch of road.  The road you’re on is leading you to absolute passion and fulfillment in your career. You’re on the right path, all you have to do is stay the course.

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While driving you glance up in your rearview and see a swarm of cars aggressively gaining on you as you realize you now have company along your journey.

The road gets crowded and it starts to get to you as you realize you now have competition in achieving your dream career. You start to wonder, if everyone wants to get to the same place, how is it possible for you to get where you want to go. You think to yourself, this road is not big enough for all of us, I should pull off. This is an example of blind spot #1: Limiting Beliefs.

As you’re driving along, a red Mercedes pulls along the driver side. You glance over at the driver and notice the she looks over at your car, seems unimpressed, and quickly speeds up ahead of you. You immediately begin to think she is a jerk and that maybe your car is not nice enough. You have just experienced blind spot #2: Interpretations.

After miles and miles of smooth driving you notice the same convertible from a few miles back that cut you off.  You think to yourself, that’s the jerk that cut me off.  You begin to recall how frightful it was for you to veer out of your lane to avoid hitting the convertible. So rather than going your normal pace, you slow down to avoid catching up to the convertible. You believe that nothings changed and he will cut you off again so you stay behind. Welcome to blind spot #3: Assumptions.

Finally, you’re nearing towards your destination and you can see the long journey to having higher career fulfillment is almost over. After driving for so long you notice the road is nearly empty, just like when you started out on your journey. But behind you notice a black Hummer who’s presence seems to take up the entire road. The Hummer is big and intimidating with tinted windows so that you can’t even see the person driving it.  The Hummer drives uncomfortably close to you and you find yourself switching lanes, slowing down, and avoiding eye contact as you try to ignore his presence. Only you can’t. His presence makes you feel small, insignificant, not good enough. You’ve driven all this way but you question whether or not you’re ready to arrive at your destination. Surely, the other cars, especially the Hummer are better suited to reach their goal and have a rewarding career. The feeling makes you want to stop in your journey and turn around. You have entered the deepest and most troubling blind spot of all, #4: Inner Critic.

These are the 4 Blind Spots that stop you from attaining greater success and happiness in your career and within your life. I call them blind spots because we are not always aware of them and they work against us from creating greater fulfillment in your career and within your life. As with all things worth going for, the path towards your calling is a journey and process that is ripe with challenges that were designed for you to overcome. Starting this week, make an effort to catch yourself and see your own ‘blind spots’ and how they hold you back. Creating awareness around your blind spots will help lead you to your desired destination.

Keep me posted on how it goes ariane@arianehunter.com.

 

Buyers Remorse

A met a good friend of mine for dinner the other night and she casually mentioned to me that she accepted a new job offer and would be starting on Monday. I jumped and cheered for her as I know the last few months of job hunting and interviewing was starting to weigh on her. Only she wasn’t excited about her new job and questioned whether she made the right decision. She wondered if the job aligned with her career goals and her life’s path. She wondered if the role matched her qualifications including the new Masters degree she just earned. She started having doubts whether she made the right decision. My friend was having buyer’s remorse.

Saying yes to any major life decision especially when it comes to your career can be daunting. The unknown can be scary as we don’t know what it would lead to and we feel like we’re losing our sense of control over the situation. Thoughts like this can make us feel like we’ve made a bad decision and regret starts to creeps in. We feel maybe we should’ve kept interviewing, maybe we shouldn’t have accepted the job offer, maybe we should’ve negotiated a higher salary, and maybe we shouldn’t have listened to other people. 

While you may have these thoughts coming up about your new job, it is important to remember, your attitude determines everything. If you show up to your new job with regrets, even if you hide it really well, it’s still likely to effect how well you do.

There is always something bigger going on behind the scenes of what you see. It is all a part of the greater universal plan that is unfolding all around you.

 

Although, on the surface the job may not feel like the right fit for you, what if you knew that in a few months, you would meet a client or customer that said a kind word about you which led to a promotion?

 

What if you knew that your new job challenged you to take on different responsibilities that you naturally excelled at and unexpectedly connected you deeper to your passion?

 

What if what you couldn’t see about this new job, was that down the road it would lead you to do the best work of your life that would then open up opportunities for greater career fulfillment?

All of these things may not be possible if you start day 1 with the thought that, this isn’t going to work out. The experience will be what you make of it. There are never any wrong decisions, just the one’s we choose to learn from. The new job is part of your experience, otherwise it wouldn’t be happening. Trust the process and the path that is being laid out for you because in some way or another, you attracted the moment to you. Honor your decisions and commit to the path openly and with a willingness to see the bigger picture. 

Keep me posted on how it goes ariane@arianehunter.com.

The Great Escape

How do you know when it’s time to leave your job? Maybe the work doesn’t stimulate you in the way it once did. Maybe the pay isn’t enough. Or maybe your boss doesn’t seem to recognize your advanced degrees, years of experience, and all the late hours you’ve pulled. You believe you deserve a promotion and a raise. But your boss doesn’t seem to notice.

What do you do then?

Your first thought might be to go out and find another job. You have the qualifications to quickly pick up another similar job. You would get hired easily and at least you won’t have to deal with the boring work, low pay, and an unappreciative boss. Sounds easy enough, right?

But what if you decided to go a different route?

Oftentimes when we find ourselves in a job we no longer like, the first instinct is to make an escape. We decide to leave the old job behind in search for a new one so that we no longer have to deal with the issues. The thought is that by leaving the problem behind we will rid ourselves completely from it and start brand new. The problem with that logic is that it is not really resolving anything.  We are simply running away from a challenge and the opportunity to use it to create a better situation for ourselves. It would be easy for us to walk away from it because then we don’t have to deal with the fears that come with facing the challenge head on.  But when we don’t embrace it, we don’t grow and we find ourselves facing the same challenge later on down the road in the new job. Same challenges, different job.

Suppose instead of finding a new job, you were forthright with your manager about the boredom with your current work responsibilities and your desire to expand and learn more in your role?

 

What if instead of leaving your job, you challenged yourself to speak to your boss about what she would need to see from you in order to get a promotion and a raise?


What if instead of leaving your job, you expressed the frustration you feel when your efforts in staying long hours go unnoticed?

By embracing the challenge you connect with what’s important to you, move past  your fears, and transform the situation. By facing our challenges head on, we may not always be able to change the situation on the outside. It may turn out that your boss still won’t give you a raise and your stuck with the same boring work. However, if that happens, at that point, you can acknowledge that instead of running away, you have fully met the obstacle and it is time to move on. 

If a great escape calls to you, this might be your fears talking. The next time you are faced with a difficulties at work, before heading over to LinkedIn to dust off your profile and begin job hunting, challenge yourself to find ways you can instead transform the situation by confronting it.

Keep me posted on how it goes ariane@arianehunter.com.

Change The Script

We all land roles in our lives. Some of them we like, most of them we don’t like. But we stick with them hoping that the casting director will re-assign us. Now, I’m no film director and I have zero experience creating movies, BUT imagine for a moment that your life were a movie.  Who’s your cast of characters? Scan your life of family and friends and see what role they play in your life. Now shift over to your j-o-b. The place you spend most of your waking hours. What role do you play there? Who is your character? Describe him or her. If you were viewing your character on a movie screen on the screenplay of your life what would you notice about your role? What would you tell your character? How closely does your character play to role of a victim? Victor? Or the villain? There’s no right or wrong answer here, just a simple observation.
 
In creating the movie of your life, it is important to understand that you are in charge of the script. Every scene that you’re in, the characters that enter/exit into your movie, and even what type of movie you want your life to be. Adventure? Romantic? Comedy? Documentary?
 
You have the power to write your own movie. What would your starring role be in your career? What would you be doing? Who would support you? What challenges would you overcome?


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This is your movie. If you don’t like it, rather than idly waiting for your story to change on it's own or for someone else to give you another role, how about stepping into the role of Writer/Director. You write the script of your own life movie. If you don’t like the way your movie is playing out, change it. The beginning, middle, and end are all up to you. You own the story.

Don’t like your movie? Change the script.

 
Keep me posted on how it goes ariane@arianehunter.com.