Today is a perfect day for writing. It is cold and rainy outside and there’s no place else I’d rather be than where I am right now; in my sofa wrapped in a blanket. What about this moment feels so right? For one, hearing the rain drops right outside my window. In speaking to my coach earlier this week, I shared with her that it had been down pouring and thundering the entire morning. She replied that in times like these, the weather helps us slow down and take necessary quiet time indoors. It is so true and Mother Nature can be our greatest reminder for us to simply slow down. And that is exactly what I intend to do today.
Weather like this always puts me in a pensive mood to settle in and gather my thoughts so that I can make sense of them. To be quite honest, this is not a stretch for me as I always find myself in my head and lost in thought. I can be in my head a lot and the one thing that I lose from spending so much time there is feeling. I forget to feel the ground underneath me and create space between me and my thoughts by being with my own breath.
Breath; it is an internal reminder, a ticking clock of sorts that serve to remind us in each moment to slow down and be present.
Why do so many of us turn away from being present? Why is the present moment such a scary place to be? I coach a lot of clients about staying present and cultivating a mindset of self-awareness in everything you do. So much of who we are, the good and the not so good, reveals itself to us once we’re paying attention. A lot of us like to see what’s on the surface and shy away from discovering the deeper layers of ourselves. We are afraid that if we find something we don’t like that means we need to do something about it. Oftentimes the idea of taking responsibility for ourselves and our lives comes at a greater cost: interrupting our comfort zone and stepping outside of it to an unknown place. It is the fear of the unknown that keeps us in our pain.
The thing I’ve learned in my own experiences with self-awareness is that if you don’t acknowledge the pain you may never know what it’s like to feel your own power. To recognize pain is to recognize your own power in undoing the pain. When I say power, I’m not talking about asserting any excessive force and control to undo the pain; that only brings on more pain. But when you acknowlege what you see, observe it's influence over you and decide that is not what you want for youself, you regain your sense of power. It is the power that can only be found in the present moment. It’s not in the past and it’s not waiting for you in some distant future, it is in the here and now. The power of acknowledging your fears and separating yourself from them lies in bringing your attention to the present moment and deciding who you are and what you want for yourself.