Guest Post: Your Three R's, by Valia Glytsis

Release, Revamp, Recalibrate

The onset of September always feels like a new year, a new beginning. We start thinking about what’s working and what’s not in our lives - both personally and professionally. Then we bury our head in the sand and say, “let me enjoy the rest of the summer, and I’ll worry about it after Labor Day.” So what is the “it” that keeps bugging us and ringing in our ears even though we try to ignore it, rationalize it, and sweep it under the rug? It’s our voice. It’s the part of us that knows we’re meant for greatness and should be playing life a LOT bigger than we are now. You’re probably nodding by now… don’t worry you’re not alone.

There’s no point in procrastinating until Labor Day – because Labor Day will turn into Thanksgiving, Christmas, and then 2012 (it always does). The time is now. One of my all-time favorite quotes says it all:

“There is no better time than now. The time to live is now. The time to imagine and forget the past is now. The time to bleed, sweat, and determine yourself for the things you want most is now.” – Anonymous

So… let’s begin at the very beginning:

1)   Release the Resistance

We are oftentimes the biggest block standing in our own way – in the way of change, development, growth, and even purpose. Why? We’re afraid. It’s perfectly normal to be afraid but once we convince ourselves that the fears are real, we begin to feel incapacitated in the face of change and progress. Your fears can show up in hundreds of sneaky ways – as emotions, mental blocks, even physical sensations.

Once you know that something is off (your body always knows), don’t add to the fear by being scared of it. The first step towards coming back to yourself is releasing this resistance of fear – whether this shows up as worry, stress, anxiety, or restlessness. Don’t resist it or it will keep coming back in more and more complex forms. Look at it, observe it, analyze it, and then plough right through it.  Allow yourself to experience it fully and then its power over you will slowly (and rather effortlessly) subside.

2)   Revamp your Circle

By circle I mean any and every social circle in your life – your intimate friends and family, co-workers, community, acquaintances, and even strangers. One of the funny things about fear is that it convinces us that we’re alone on our journeys and no one else completely understands. As givers, we often share, love, work, participate – until we feel utterly drained. Others leach onto us for light, energy, and support. If you’re feeling this way, you need to revamp your circle - now.

The only way to live your best and truest life is by both giving and receiving. If it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, you’re not allowing yourself to receive. Find like-minded people and communities and share your ideas, concerns, and dreams. As you recharge others, you too must refuel your batteries by surrounding yourself with those who resonate at your level of understanding. By speaking honestly and openly about who you are and what you want (without fear), you will naturally attract those who are, in turn, looking for you.

3)   Recalibrate your “WHO”

The real work begins here. Once you’ve decided to look fear straight in the face and revamp the people that surround and influence you most, you’re ready to rediscover your “who”: who you are, what you want, why you’re here, where you’re going. Basically, your story and purpose. This process is very much like peeling an onion. Throughout our lives we’ve accumulated a lot of “stuff” (to phrase it nicely) about what we “should” and “have to” be doing with our lives. It’s time to burst the reality of those facades and peel layer by layer off of the onion.

When you become aware of WHO you really are (not who others want you to be) – you begin your journey towards living a conscious, purposeful, and fully abundant life. For most, this is a lifelong journey, but for those who choose to awaken, they will start feeling the shifts instantly. Start with taking a walk in nature, breathing with awareness, and listening. The answers you seek are all inside – you just won’t be able to hear them until you silence the noise.

~ Valia Glytis

Valia Glytsis is a personal and professional leadership coach. She works with clients who are looking to discover and define their personal leadership brand so that they begin to live true to their voice and on purpose. In this low-touch, high-pace digital world, Valia values human-to-human communication, genuine connection, and personal touch above all else. For more information on her coaching offerings, please email: .